At about 9:15, around the time Erin went into labor the day before, our doctor checked Erin’s progression. She said that Erin’s dilation had regressed from 9 cm to 8 cm and that the cervix was thickening instead of getting thinner like it should. What was happening was that, despite all of Erin’s contractions, our son had a bigger head than Erin’s pelvic opening (not to mention he was posterior). The cervix was swelling (i.e. closing up). There was no way the baby was coming out vaginally, the fact that Erin was trying to push River out was causing the cervix to close up. It was just bad genes, my thick-skull genes were conflicting with Erin’s small pelvis genes.
Erin was prepped for surgery and off she went to have the baby the very way we didn’t want. All of that sadness and frustration vanished as soon as River entered our world. He came out and was whisked to the warming table. He was audible, but not really crying. More like saying “Hi, nice to meet you, thank you for your help, it was getting tight in there”.
He has long dark brown hair, a cone head from Erin’s extremely heroic efforts, 7 lbs 11 oz, 20 inches long, and did i mention a huge head? I often joked that all new born babies look the same; wrinkled prunes, but this baby is our wrinkled prune and the cutest one on the block!
I really feel sorry for Erin though. During a C-Section the father can be in the operating room. The mother must be tied down on a table similar to a crucifix. Her arms are tied to the table so that she can’t reach down and interfere with the surgery. I, on the other hand, could walk around, watch the surgery, cut the cord, and hold the baby right away. The only thing i could do for Erin was bring the baby close to her head, but she couldn’t fully see it because her head movement was restricted. I felt like i was torturing her. All the hard work and pain that she went through, and all she could do was see it from the corner of her eyes. I almost broke down crying from the cruel injustice. The next two hours i was able to spend quality time with River while Erin laid alone in a sterile room (no outside visitors) because of complications from the surgery. There has to be a better system for C-Sections!
But when i was able to see her, it was like magic seeing the bond between a mother and her child. The joy in her eyes as she held her first born child was such a treat!
The experiences i’ve had today with River are absolutely breath-taking. I love swaddling him (It’s so much fun!). I’ve discovered that if you try to burp him by rubbing his back, he immediately falls asleep. And i almost did a touchdown dance when i first made him burp!
There is nothing like your very own baby!